What price our pseudo-empathy?

In a world of imponderables, some old-fashioned detachment might serve us better

by Mark Steyn on Thursday, June 4, 2009 3:00pm - 131 Comments

What price our pseudo-empathy?Empathy. You either got it or you ain’t. Sonia Sotomayor’s got it, which is why she’s just been nominated to the U.S. Supreme Court. President Obama said that what he’s looking for in a big-time judge is “the depth and breadth of one’s empathy.” As he told his pro-abortion chums at Planned Parenthood, “We need somebody who’s got the heart—the empathy—to recognize what it’s like to be a young teenage mom. The empathy to understand what it’s like to be poor or African-American or gay or disabled or old—and that’s the criteria by which I’ll be selecting my judges. Alright?”

Er, well, alright. But what does it boil down to in practice? Then-senator Obama voted against the confirmation of Chief Justice Roberts because the nominee said he saw the judge’s role as that of “umpire.” The President wants someone less hung up on the rule book. He likes to cite the case of Lilly Ledbetter, who sued Goodyear Tire for discrimination but ran up against the pesky old statute of limitations. An “empathetic” judge would presumably say, “Screw the statute of limitations.” Strange to hear the same folks who complain that Bush disregarded the Geneva Conventions and the U.S. Constitution at Gitmo (both charges untrue, by the way) simultaneously hailing the ability to disregard inconvenient laws as the indispensable attribute of a Supreme Court justice.

Obama’s judges sound less like “umpires” than cheerleaders: designate the approved identity group, and twirl your baton accordingly. Why not? It works in many other areas of life. In contemporary education’s flight from facts to feelings, “empathy” has become a useful substitute for history. In the schoolrooms of the developed world, you’ll be asked to empathize with, say, a West African who’s sold into slavery and shipped off to Virginia, or with a hapless Native American who catches dysentery, typhoid, gonorrhea and an early strain of avian flu by foolishly buying beads from Christopher Columbus. This would be a useful exercise if we were genuinely interested in socio-historical empathizing. But instead the compliant pupil is expected merely to acknowledge the unlucky Indian as an early victim of European racism, and to assign the slave a contemporary African-American identity and thereby “empathize” with his sense of injustice. At this level, empathy is no more than the projection of contemporary and parochial obsessions—racism, sexism, imperialism—over the rich canvas of the past.

It’s a modish fancy. You didn’t hear the word much a generation back. Now people who would once have sympathized with you insist on claiming to “empathize” with you. In his book Clinical Empathy, David Berger offers the following definition: “The capacity to know emotionally what another is experiencing from within the frame of reference of that other person.”

My italics. Because, after all, that’s the tricky bit. Take the presidential requirement “to understand what it’s like to be disabled.” If you’re paralyzed in a riding accident, I can sympathize at the drop of a hat: my God, that’s awful. Helluva thing to happen. But can I empathize “from within the frame of reference of that other person”?

Example: “Driving down there, I remember distinctly thinking that Chris would rather not live than be in this condition.” That’s Barbara Johnson recalling the immediate aftermath of her son Christopher Reeve’s riding accident. Her instinct was to pull the plug; his was to live. Bill Clinton famously claimed to “feel your pain.” He can’t, not really. But the immodesty of the assertion is as pithy a distillation as any other of what’s required in an age of pseudo-empathy.

The first definition in my Webster’s gets closer to the truth: “The imaginative projection of a subjective state into an object so that the object appears to be infused with it.” That’s geopolitical empathy as practised by the Western world. The more depraved the subjects of the Palestinian Authority become, the more energetically the great powers invest in the delusion that this is a conventional nationalist struggle. Thus, “empathy” becomes the very opposite of David Berger’s definition: we examine these subjects from within our frame of reference. As Condi Rice told the columnist Cal Thomas a year or two back, “The great majority of Palestinian people, they just want a better life. This is an educated population. I mean, they have a kind of culture of education and a culture of civil society. I just don’t believe mothers want their children to grow up to be suicide bombers. I think the mothers want their children to grow up to go to university. And if you can create the right conditions, that’s what people are going to do.”

Mr. Thomas asked the secretary of state a sharp follow-up: “Do you think this or do you know this?”

“Well, I think I know it.”

I think she knows she doesn’t know it. The last time I was in the West Bank the genial proprietors at most convenience stores had various heroic Martyrs of the Week pinned up on the wall behind the cash register, and the Education Ministry was giving first prize in its letter-writing competition to a seventh-grader from Jenin pledging to his deceased father to become a suicide bomber and “propel my living-dead body into your arms.” As to what mothers want for their children, I would be wary of deluding myself that I could “empathize” with Mariam Farahat, a mother of three, formerly a mother of six, triumphantly elected to parliament as “Um Nidal” (“Mother of the Struggle”) on the strength of having persuaded a trio of her sons to self-detonate over various surrounding Zionists. Granted, this makes university education much more affordable for her surviving offspring, yet call me unempathetic but I don’t get the feeling it’s a big priority.

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  • Thomas L.

    I love reading the posts where "teh empathizers" get to tell Steyn how crazy and wrong he is. They're just so well schooled in Multiculti- Newspeak. Words just don't mean what they used to mean. I got it! I'm supposed to believe them, not my own lying eyes (and cold hands). It's teh nuance and teh warming! Hey, it's June 5th, anyone see my mittens?

  • nicholas

    (cont.)

    I miss that guy.

    Would that we had more nominees of the caliber and judicial temperament as Clarence Thomas. Not because he is a classic American success story, or that his life repudiates the entire empty leftist politics of race entitlements, or that the nomination of a person of color makes me feel good about myself.

    It is because he is a man of character.

  • bernard ross

    scott tribes name calling typifies the lefts response to logic and evidence when these contradict their opinions. He didn't even read the paragraph he posted which contradicts his opinion. What is more interesting is that the Bush comments on his appointment are much more intelligent and reasoned than the so called messiah's.. So much for ignorant cowboys.

  • Jake20

    Steyn, as usual, manages to smack a bunch of nails on the head. The touchy-feely ‘empathy’ favoured by leftists like Obama is useless delusional narcissism at best and dangerous delusional narcissism at worst.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Jack_Mitchell Jack_Mitchell

      Spoken like a true coward.

      • Wakefield, Incarnate

        Guilt speaks first.

  • BlackLadsteak

    Steyn,like all neo-con artists,pines for the days when women were barefoot and pregnant,blacks were shining his shoes,clea-
    ning his home,and he did not have to worry about his blonde daughter-if he has one-bringing a classically handsome black lad(yours truly?)home and introducing him as her boyfriend.
    Also,Aboriginals were strange-looking and-speaking,comic "Indians,"(light-skinned)Latins were hot-tempered lovers,Asian men inscrutable,Asian women pliant and gorgeous,and Arabs were rich shieks lusting after blonde Canadian and American
    women.In short,a bigot,which is why neo-conservatism is moribund as 2010 approaches.

    • Thomas L.

      You know all this do you? In that case, may I, using some of your irrefutable "logic", assume that you pine for the good old days of Comrade Stalin?

    • richfisher

      Nice act Kresgin.
      Project much?

    • nicholas

      Steyn hits a little too close to the mark for the Black Lad, therefore he must be impugned with a totally fictional construction. Easier this than actually considering the argument and its necessarily frightening implications for our future. No question the Islamists care little for who the President happens to be, or whether or not his middle name is Hussein. Wandering about in a narcissistic fog conjured up by the slavish adulation of the mainstream media ain't gonna get it done, nor is brushing aside analysis you find troubling by decrying the author of the analysis must cringe in fear at the supposed sexual proclivity of black dudes. What the …? Hello! Time to push back the comforter and face the daylight.

    • scf

      Nothing you've said is true, even remotely.

  • http://theheelersdiaries.blogspot.com James Healy

    Another good un by the Steynervortzel.
    James

  • Carole

    Those two pictures — aaaarrrrgggggh. Now I'll have to gouge out my eyes. Mark, you're brilliant and right on as usual. I always save your posts to use as references in my graduate program! Thank you.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Jack_Mitchell Jack_Mitchell

      "I always save your posts to use as references in my graduate program!"

      That's a new one: Steyn the scholar!

  • Gaunilon

    I empathized (?) with this line:
    "In a multicultural age, we suffer from a unicultural parochialism: not simply the inability to imagine the other, but the inability even to imagine there is an other. "

    I've lost track of the number of times I've been at dinner with someone, listened as they spouted some typical leftist cant as incontestible fact(e.g. Cheney started the Iraq war to reap profits via Haliburton), offered an obvious counter-argument (e.g. Cheney donated all his profits from Haliburton to charity), and realized that not only had they never heard the counter-argument, but they'd never even thought to wonder whether there might be a counter-argument.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Jack_Mitchell Jack_Mitchell

      My guess is they'd never even thought that could possibly be proposed as a counter-argument and were trying to figure out how to let you off gently. Defending Dick Cheney at dinner is about as tasteful as ripping a series of explosive farts between courses.

      • http://www.wakepedia.blogspot.com Wakefield Tolbert

        ..all too true, but only because the perception as intimated by the slipstream of consciousness media has made sure that his very visage is about on par with gas passing at weddings, spitting in someone else's yard, and the inability to hold your beer at dinner. Thus for example one COULD point out that the usual peanut gallery had it as read (back in the day…) that between one million and two million human beings got nixed by Saddam Hussein during those wondrous years of containment and the seedy Oil for Food scandal, and it turns out that Steyn is correct when he says it takes no such retrospect even as this to figure out that the lofty inertia and timidity of "containment" is at best a theoretical world of academics guessing how to make strong men uncomfortable and at worst a very very very very expensive dictator management program. Depending on whose stats you thought were handiest in slamming the West in general and the US in particular (with the UK being a sidekick in the pants), "we" killed two million Iraqis due starvation and privation of services.

      • Wakefield, at dinner

        Now that the glory days of Hussein's 80's Vegas splendor are gone, never to return, we find out from the Left that "containment" was a masterstroke bit of genius from George Kennan-eque notions that worked wonders in Iraq back in those good old days after all.

        I'm guessing that boorish people pointing this out in the Beltway region these days would spill more than a few glasses of wine at the table. And may God help the man who gets the earful or eyeful of the liberals' quotes–said quotes who pined for the war as well.

    • scf

      Mitchell is good at inadvertently confirming a point like yours.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Jack_Mitchell Jack_Mitchell

    "if he was reporting critically from the front lines during the Bush darkness"

    LOL, that would be NO. His whole career has been built on stoking unmanly fear in his fanbase.

    • nicholas

      Nope. His career and writing interests have been extremely broad. His interest in demographic changes in the West and their implications stemmed from his surprise at the observable response of fairly broad sections of the populations of Western nations following the attacks of 9/11.

      • kcm

        nicholas
        Steyn's a demographer like i'm a pundit – difference is i know it!

  • DerekPearce

    Two little things not relevant to the overall theme of this piece, but they must be noted: Steyn uses the old "pro-abortion" chestnut. There's a reason the term "pro-choice" is used. No one is "pro-abortion," as that would mean that one wants ALL fetuses everywhere aborted. It's not a subtle distinction for cryin' out loud.

    The other is the use of the word "madrassa" for the school Obama attended in Indonesia as a boy. Steyn loses any claim to objectivity when he uses deliberately false language like this.

    • nicholas

      On the first point, Steyn is free to assign the name of his choosing. The Pro-Choice name was coined after the Pro-Life movement gained momentum in challenging Roe v Wade. Prior to that they were simply abortion proponents. The Pro-Life movement's name is well founded and is clearly how the movement prefers to be called, yet they are commonly referred to as "anti-abortion rights activists". It's not fair, but the control of the language plays a big role in the left's efforts to achieve their objectives, characterizing their opponents in a fashion that marginalizes their legitimate viewpoints. Certainly two can play at that game.

      I cannot speak as assuredly on the second point, but if you are claiming that President Obama was not schooled in Islamic religious beliefs it would seem the President himself would argue against you, as he listed it as a strength and resume enhancer in his speech in Egypt.

    • scf

      You're wrong. Pro-abortion does not mean abortion everywhere, the abolishment of all fetuses, anymore that being in favor of public transportation means the abolishment of privately-owned vehicles.

      Pro-abortion means exactly what it says, that abortion be freely and easily available to anyone who wants one.

      If you were to take the term pro-choice to the same logical extremes, you'd conclude that it meant that we are free to choose anything, that it meant the eradication of all laws, because there is nothing in the word that suggests it has anything to do with killing fetuses.

    • scf

      The term madrassa means a "Muslim school, college or university that is often part of a mosque." And Obama has acknowleged that as a child in Indonesia he did attend a "Muslim school."

    • http://www.wakepedia.blogspot.com Wakefield Tolbert

      All too true, except for the nuts who wrote books in those heady days proclaiming titles to the effect of "Abortion is a blessing."

      CHOICE is all the rage, and though I cannot prove it, it seems an Orwellian drift that the most vocal noises and gale force winds that wail about "choice" are not only one step away (if that much) in effectively making what turns out ot be a demographic "Sophie's Choice", but also these harridans of "choice" rarely feel the word should apply to some other human endeavor other than a backup for a one night stand when the young laddie blows town or little princess finds she needs the local clinic to help her fit into her prom dress.

    • Wakefield

      Thus for example most "CHOICE" proponents have little but disdain for parents of those somewhat larger fetuses that did make full term and are now in school of one form or another. Preferably not the mire of the public schools, the reproductive system of liberalism and mutli culti mush. Would that choice on things like schooling and removal of oneself from the forced funding of the same be a viable option for the living, now that freedom to others has bequeathed us the dead.

      As to schooling, funny that Obama should sex up his Muslim heritage based on what some consider rather thin freight when it comes to being partially schooled at a madrasa—-and yes, that is what it was…

      Another skid gets greased by the Obots…

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  • nicholas

    Exactly, thus my response above to your earlier comment appears to be re-enforced. That is why it is troubling for a judge to claim that advancement practices of a fire department based on the results of a competence exam are discriminatory and the test results are to be ignored, the better to create "fairness". This kind of ruling does not engender “fairness" at all, because the fire department is no longer allowed to advance candidates on the basis of their merit. Ultimately, the best treatment for all, including minorities, will be equal treatment.

    • Janice Rose

      Good points Nicholas. If this objectivity and lack of empathy was across the board, then it might work. But this would never happen; in the meantime, I see having a little empathy, particulaly for those who have been historically discriminated against by the judicial system as a move to balance the scales. Yeah, it shouldn't be considered a bona fide occupational qualification for a judge, but since I am a guilty of empathizing with many of the underpriveleged, I'm pleased with the Obama's choice.

  • nicholas

    A very keen rebuttle. The inference is that you both don't know what you are talking about. A bold argument, to be sure.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Jack_Mitchell Jack_Mitchell

      I'm always impressed at how doggone smart the Steynettes are.

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  • Wakefield Tolbert

    Bravo.

    I can't add much to that.

    Well done.

    The post has matched it's philosopher's heritage.

    Except I'd comment on this:

    Steyn has a talent for condensing spectacular insight into brief quips. Sometimes so brief, and so mildly tossed off, that the weight of wisdom is easy to miss. The whole latter half of his essay is nicely contained in this easily-missed gem:

    True that a quip does not give the full monty.

    And there can be much context in these quips.

    But, like people tell me sometimes, Steyn is taking the modern journalist/writer's attack on things and has taken to heart the advice that if someone asks the time, don't tell them how to build a clock.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/Archimedes2 Archimedes2

      if someone asks the time, don't tell them how to build a clock.

      Good point Wakefield. If you read lots of my comments here and elsewhere you'll find I have an awful tendency to tell people how to build a clock. It's a fault that maybe will get better the more I read from the works of luminaries like steyn. I appreciate your thoughts. Even so, at the risk of being accused of unwarranted dissection of clocks, I'll add to my comment only this: I believe that this peculiarly modern and western notion of "empathy" is not a thinking error on the part of its proponents, but a rhetorical device for making political points. To say "I empathize with [Palestinians/Aboriginals/homeless, whatever]" is a way to leverage a political discussion in one's favour; strictly speaking it has nothing to do with empathy–it has everything to do with painting a political opponent in a negative light; it is exploitive opportunism of the worst sort, and about spinning a lack of action as benevolence. In another article recently Steyn quipped of the western progressives' tendency to hold "bake sales for Sudan" while the genocide there goes on unhindered. "Empathy" versus action.

    • http://www.intensedebate.com/people/Archimedes2 Archimedes2

      if someone asks the time, don't tell them how to build a clock.

      Good point Wakefield. If you read lots of my comments here and elsewhere you'll find I have an awful tendency to tell people how to build a clock. It's a fault that maybe will get better the more I read from the works of luminaries like steyn. I appreciate your thoughts. Even so, at the risk of being accused of unwarranted dissection of clocks, I'll add to my comment only this: I believe that this peculiarly modern and western notion of "empathy" is not a thinking error on the part of its proponents, but a rhetorical device for making political points. To say "I empathize with [Palestinians/Aboriginals/homeless, whatever]" is a way to leverage a political discussion in one's favour; strictly speaking it has nothing to do with empathy–it has everything to do with painting a political opponent in a negative light; it is exploitive opportunism of the worst sort, and about spinning a lack of action as benevolence. In another article recently Steyn quipped of the western progressives' tendency to hold "bake sales for Sudan" while the genocide there goes on unhindered. "Empathy" versus action.

    • http://www.intensedebate.com/people/Archimedes2 Archimedes2

      if someone asks the time, don't tell them how to build a clock.

      Good point Wakefield. If you read lots of my comments here and elsewhere you'll find I have an awful tendency to tell people how to build a clock. It's a fault that maybe will get better the more I read from the works of luminaries like steyn. I appreciate your thoughts. Even so, at the risk of being accused of unwarranted dissection of clocks, I'll add to my comment only this: I believe that this peculiarly modern and western notion of "empathy" is not a thinking error on the part of its proponents, but a deliberate rhetorical device for making political points. To say "I empathize with [Palestinians/Aboriginals/homeless, whatever]" is a way to leverage a political discussion in one's favour; strictly speaking it has nothing to do with empathy–it has everything to do with painting a political opponent in a negative light; it is exploitive opportunism of the worst sort, and about spinning a lack of action as benevolence. In another article recently Steyn quipped of the western progressives' tendency to hold "bake sales for Sudan" while the genocide there goes on unhindered. "Empathy" versus action.

    • http://www.intensedebate.com/people/Archimedes2 Archimedes2

      if someone asks the time, don't tell them how to build a clock.

      Good point Wakefield. If you read lots of my comments here and elsewhere you'll find I have an awful tendency to tell people how to build a clock. It's a fault that maybe will get better the more I read from the works of luminaries like steyn. I appreciate your thoughts. Even so, at the risk of being accused of unwarranted dissection of clocks, I'll add to my comment only this: I believe that this peculiarly modern and western notion of "empathy" is not a thinking error on the part of its proponents, but a deliberate rhetorical device for making political points. To say "I empathize with [Palestinians/Aboriginals/homeless, whatever]" is a way to leverage a political discussion in one's favour; strictly speaking it has nothing to do with empathy–it has everything to do with painting a political opponent in a negative light; it is exploitive opportunism of the worst sort, and about spinning a lack of action as benevolence. I personally feel that "having one's heart in the right place" is a good thing, but in and of itself it carries no moral weight; and merely to make claims to having one's heart in the right place is downright morally repugnant. In another article recently Steyn quipped of the western progressives' tendency to hold "bake sales for Sudan" while the genocide there goes on unhindered. "Empathy" versus action.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/JustinWordswrth JustinWordswrth

    Just Is Department

    Justice doesn't need her blindfold removed, she knows to distrust whomever she hears with an accent.

  • Janice Rose

    Steyn's lens' are so thick with cynicism it's often difficult to endure his rants. His mindset ensures his views of the world are reinforced and anything incongruous to it are ignored. He has made that apparent over and over again about his views of Muslims. He manages to infuse something negative about them into most of his columns. He' on a mission!

    • Ruy Diaz

      "His mindset ensures…"

      Yet another amateur psychologist.

      Let's concentrate on Steyn, and not on what he says. If he brings bad news, by all means, let's shoot the messenger.

  • kcm

    nicholas
    Actually the latest demographic shows Steyn's" they're going to swamp us shstick" to be passe. But go ahead an seize on an inference that'll offer you the most comfort.

    • Wakefield Tolbert

      False–but please continue anyhow–

      the latest shows that for the plupart of his argument, Steyn is correct, and that this recent alleged uptick in birthrates in Northern Europe makes no clear distinction of the fact that most of the maternity ward noise is still comfortably made by those proclaiming Allah's will and wearing hajibs.

      It does no good to render unto others the demographic finger and saying "you'll soon be where WE are", when YOU are already over the edge of the waterfall.

      • kcm

        My real point is that demographics are by their very nature not a reliable foundation to build a monumental "end of civillization as we know it" theory. By the way Mr Steyn…er W.T. what's a plupart when it's at home?

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/td182a td182a

    Macleans Magazine has a great asset in Mark Steyn. As long as they keep writers like him on the payroll, they will continue to prosper and make their mark (no pun intended!)
    In the last few years they seem to have figured out that what people want is the unbridled truth, just the hard, cold facts. We will make our own opinions and decisions. I was a long term subscriber who canceled mid subscription a few years ago as they were getting so left wing and mushy. I now am an auto-renewing subscriber.
    What I fail to understand or comprehend; is why the masses are so gullible, willing to fall for any smooth talking fool. Why does it take hard times of some sort in order for people to want to see below the surface issues to try to find the underlying problems.
    As for OBAMA, he is a very intelligent, charming man, who seems to think that he has to have every one like him. He does not have enough life experience for his position. He stands for nothing, so he will fall for anything. It is very sad to see the USA becoming so irrelevant so fast. OBAMA is out to change the world, or at least the US, but he hasn't yet figured out that you can't spend more than you bring in. There is a reason why his Secretary of the Treasury, Timothy Geithner, was openly and loudly laughed at recently in China.

    Mr. Steyn, I have your book, (signed) and please keep the excellent commentaries coming. Breath of fresh air.
    Thanks Macleans.

  • Kamel Krazie

    The gold medallion necklace, the King Abdul Aziz order of merit, presented to President Obama by Saudi King Abdullah , now that's major Bling-Bling ! Honking huge chain links with an equally oversized, obnoxious medallion, gaudi-Saudi at it's best.
    I half expected a chorus of Saudi princelings to break into a misogynic rap routine.A get down and dirty, crotch grabbing, I'm going to smack my Bi_ches rendition.

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  • Paul Monroe

    Well, I might disagree here.
    What I see is less empathy than the pr bs version of it.
    You know, politicians and government officials displaying loudly their empathetic side.
    Well, that's getting old.
    One needs to just look at the facts.
    Another one: I am an immigrant and I think there's nothing that much particularly unique about it (there are many of us here – and I for my part prefer to be called by my name). I would hate to be labeled something so that people would take pity on me. (It is not always the case) Many misfits , incompetent, lazy people like to hide their flaws behind some big-victmised term. And the pr bsters always fall for that (they are generally too lazy to go looking for the facts that would corroborate such "self-victmiser's" claim ).
    Pr bsters and self-victmisers: GET A LIFE.

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