Comments on: Theo Fleury was abused: "An absolute nightmare, every day of my life"

By: Ryan

Ryan — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 01:50:00 +0000

What a great story, I’m doing an assignment on you Theo.

By: Bohn

Bohn — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 15:01:00 +0000

Canadian Laws are based in the Babylonian Talmud that condones the abuse of children. Our laws are unlawful and Judges are for the most part unethical, inhuman themselves working for the same puppet-masters that follow this evil book. Look into the Franklin scandal where you can see how Bush Sr. was a regular pedophile customer. All these crimes are being committed with the knowledge of the Talmudic Khazarian International bankers such as Rothschild, Rockefeller and the rest of their monstrous criminals, such as the Queen of England and the Vatican.
Remember what they did to the aboriginal children and still continue to do. Many were murdered and buried in secret in the grounds of churches and residential schools.

If you read the Babylonian Talmud you will be disgusted with the filth of what the Pharisees wrote in this Satanic book, for instance that it is alright to have sex with animals, dead bodies and children. These Pharasies were able to deceive the Hebrews of old and eliminate the other religious groups such as the Essenes, and centralize their Satanic religion making it the only one in order to brainwash the ordinary people who were kept ignorant so that they would be easily manipulated.
Didn’t Christ called them ” blind guides” and that ”…you are of your father, the Devil”?
They abuse their own children not just the gentiles for Vicky Polin went on Oprah to expose that her own parents engaged in Satanic ritualistic practices. In the Talmud there is the blood ritual where children, preferably, of seven years old are sacrificed to Baal-Lucifer. They drink their blood and some eat their flesh.

Dr. Joy Silberg also discovered that this is increasing and being encouraged by the powers-that-be.

By: ben

ben — Thu, 05 May 2011 21:03:25 +0000

theo your a beauty and im doing an essay on you i could use a hand. but im sure your extremley busy.

By: jackwilliamss

jackwilliamss — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 11:31:38 +0000

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By: The Gay Guy

The Gay Guy — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 16:09:52 +0000

I lovee you !!!!!!!

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By: Harold

Harold — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 18:27:47 +0000

its okay man live strong die hard :p

By: jon

jon — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 18:20:05 +0000

hello !

By: Rein

Rein — Wed, 10 Nov 2010 19:47:50 +0000

I would have to agree with peter. It is not only sad, but a total embarrassment , that our legal system lets these unforgivable crimes such as James's off with 3.5 years. When he reenters the courts in this next few months he needs to be punished properly as this case is under the microscope. If these actions are not punished properly, what is deterring any future actions , such as these by others??

By: ajsmacdonald

ajsmacdonald — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 00:54:55 +0000

I wanted to tell you that I am trying my best not to let it own me. My sister and I are very different people and I guess there will always be things I don't understand about her. I will never understand why he did what he did.I admire how you stood up to be counted and stopped the cycle. Like I said to my sister who lamented over leaving it secret for so long….you're here now. You've told the truth and now it's in our rear view mirror.
Take good care Theo.
All the best
ajs macdonald

By: ajsmacdonald

ajsmacdonald — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 00:50:59 +0000

Theo. I know you probably wont ever read this but I fee it important to tell you that you are not alone.I was sexually assaulted by my older brother.My sister, I come to find out was abused as well by the same person.The difference was, I spoke out to my parents immediately while she was more reluctant to speak up.She hated me for years because she was so ashamed of not coming forward sooner. She resented me deeply.Our relationship was one of anger, resentment and bitterness.It's only as adults that we've been able to talk about it.
I'm not going to lie to you. I still am deeply hurt by her shabby treatment as a younger sister, no matter what the circumstance. But I have to try to not only understand her view but also find it within myself to forgive my brother who has never done anything to reconcile his damage.
I do understand you Theo. I know the shame and lasting damage it can do to your soul. My first marriage ended because I had a very difficult time with my own sexuality as a result.

By: Aaron

Aaron — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 02:43:26 +0000

congratulations theorn, It takes a lot to finally confront people like this especially after so long. i wish you the best.

By: Ray Auclair

Ray Auclair — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 02:13:45 +0000

Hi Theo I was always a fan of yours and became a fan of Sheldon Kennedy also after he came forward.Well thanks to you guys I am seeking help now. 44 years ago I was abused for only a six week period and even once is too much however I am getting help now I can talk about it and stopped blaming myself.However the man that abused me is now dead but he abused many after me and that is what I am dealing with the fact I didn't come out sooner about what that man did to me when I was 13 years old.I will be working with VCARS in my home town Timmins Ontario when I am ready.

By: Chicago mover

Chicago mover — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 12:50:36 +0000

I think the contribution of Theo Fleury is very much higher in each and every match. Amazing player to watch…

By: Karen

Karen — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 07:28:07 +0000

You and Sheldon Kennedy have been through HELL. It takes a villiage to raise a child. I know the people in the world of sports know what is going on and they don't do anything about it because they have their own interest at heart. Parents who abuse their children and allow their children to be abused have their own interest at heart. Parents, coaches and the people in the world of sports need to be made accountable for their actions. Children who have been abused need to talk to someone at the Rape Crisis Centre or a community centre like Cups.

By: Erika

Erika — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 07:06:50 +0000

I admire your courage in speaking openly about the molestation, mental and physical abuse that you suffered from this man who was entrusted with so much power and influence over your life. How truly awful that the NHL closed it eyes to such atrocities. Praying that you find peace and happiness and satisfaction from knowing that your story will have a tremendous impact on how officials in the world of sports respond to children who suffer the same abuse in the future. Thank you for your story, and for saving other children from the same abuses that you suffered. Your story will help to open peoples eyes to other child predators preying on the trust of parents and children. Wishing you all the best. God Bless you.

By: james

james — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 01:14:14 +0000

mr fleury,youre stiry inspired me to come out with some abuse that I have suffered bye a family member who now is dead,I'm 36 years of age soon to be 37 and my life isnt getting any easier,I dont know what to do I live in edmonton I'm from nova scotia I was abused again last year while serving remand time for a crime that I did not committ I was found not guilty and suffered abuse while I was in there and nobody seems to care what has happened to me I have a son who is just turned 2 and his mother accused me of rapping her and I was found not guilty in court for this while I was in jail waiting for my trial is when I suffered more sexuall abuse and I have brought it to the attention of authourities and nobody cares I dont know if youre going to see this message but if you do and you could help me in anyway at all it would be greatly appreciated

By: IRREADER

IRREADER — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 05:54:16 +0000

How dare you! Small minded people like always belittle the positive accomplishments of others. Until you change you will be on the outside looking in – you are cold and unfeeling, no compassion for the misfortune of others.

By: don muntean

don muntean — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 01:49:30 +0000

I'm glad that Theo Fleury is healing now…

I too have been suffering with such an abuse – in 1982 – just three months after I turned 15 – I was molested [over the course of 2 months] by a moose Jaw city police officer and what did the Sask In-justice department charge him with? Contributing to juvenile delinquency! Yup I had to go through the original abuse and later the abuse by the system. At least the Moose Jaw police service fired him and – he never got his job back. I hope he rots in hell one day. I have been permanently marred by this abuse.

By: victoria

victoria — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:07:54 +0000

Go get that jerk Graham and make him pay big time. There is always someone for him to pray on as long as he is free!!

By: ALLI

ALLI — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:10:44 +0000

I will never let anyone touch my children. I will never ignore or turn a blind eye because I am not certain of the outcome. Children's minds are so fragile, and for someone you trust as an adult to lead you – betrays you – that can haunt and ruin your entire life. I know, and I will never, ever let it happen. I will be there at every moment, watching, ensuring that they are safe. I'm not blaming your parents Theo, I think they had their own problems – and back then, I think life was a little different. It's only that you and your family have to be the ones to suffer so that we could all learn – and I am sorry that you have to be the one. I will take a page from Theo's book as a parent and play an absolutely vigilant role in my children's lives as their protector.

By: Dale Curd

Dale Curd — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 20:26:17 +0000

I want to acknowledge Theo Fleury for taking a fearless, moral inventory of himself and for exposing his abuser Graham James. Boys who are abused suffer in a silence that is molded out of shame and fear. So to find the courage to speak out is nothing short of monumental. With 1 out of every 4 or 6 men, on average in Canada being the victim of sexual abuse when they were boys – there are many, many more of us out there who need to talk about this and get support for what we are feeling.
Guys like Sheldon Kennedy and Theo Fleury make it okay for more men to share what has happened. An the more we talk about it and share – the less likely that these same abuses will happen to our sons. I know, I've been abused as a boy and I now counsel men who are looking to put their lives back together after the damaging impact of the sexual abuse they suffered as boys.
Way to go Theo!

By: WILKY NANAIMO B.C.

WILKY NANAIMO B.C. — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 16:05:36 +0000

I was also abused by a coach ages 11 to 12 he did the same things sleep overs movies skiing he was like a dad as mine was not around much the first time i was invited to stay i wondered why others all ran to other rooms that night and more later i begam a victim and an addict and confused sexually I am a member of a step program which helps my addictions but how do you really get over or deal with the sexual abuse i look foreword to reading your book!U R LOOKIN GREAT!!!!!!!!

By: rosanne keen

rosanne keen — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 17:49:00 +0000

Only a mind as sick as the pedophile Graham James could write such rubbish…what does it do for you to make such a pathetic statement…grow up…if you had suffered the abuse that these men had endured…you could never say such immature and cruel things…watch the fifth estate tonight…and if you have an ounce of human decency…you will weep…shame on you.

By: Beverley

Beverley — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:24:15 +0000

Fantastic article,I commend Theo & Sheldon for having the courage to come forward.Unfortunately not many men come forward with the sexual abuse they suffered especially in the sports leagues,you could be instramental in helping children & adults come forward.I wish both you and Sheldon all the best in your future endeavours Theo.

By: Rich

Rich — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 20:35:19 +0000

Good luck Theo and Sheldon, I was a Flames season ticket holder when both of you played and I enjoyed every moment and marveled at the passion you had for the game of Hockey. Charge Graham James with Pedophilia and lets get this scum bag put away for good were he can not hurt any one else.

Good luck and thanks for the stellar play while a member of the Flames.

By: Katie

Katie — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 06:45:32 +0000

Mr. Fleury, I lived in Swift Current when you and then Graham James were in the WHL – All I remember is what a star you were when you were with the Moose Jaw Warriors … I wonder how many people in the hockey world knew and could have stopped it – but I remember being in high school with the Broncos – they were so vulnerable, the coach had all power … Your story and Sheldon Kennedy’s makes it clear that as a people, Canadians have to be much more protective of the children we treat like men that play junior on the way to the big show … Despite all of your personal problems, you were a great player … I wish you all the best in your recovery … And I hope the WHL, the OHL, and the CHL takes note – we have to be more protective of teenagers growing up in the hockey world … May someone like Graham James never happen again … Good Luck ..

By: Barb

Barb — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 18:52:52 +0000

Life has been a struggle in more ways than one and hopefully you will find peace within yourself. Your life has a whole new meaning now and a fresh start for yourself and your family. Best of Luck.

By: Anne

Anne — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 18:30:18 +0000

Good Luck Theo
Have always admired your spunk & enjoyed watching you
play. You are the greatest.
Take care & remember you are now free of that horrible person
who took so much away from you – don't let it destroy you anymore.

By: Fred Finger

Fred Finger — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 16:20:25 +0000

A friend of mine was on the Moose Jaw hockey team with Theo and Sheldon. My friend was pulled from the powerplay, because Theo wanted to end up 3rd on the team in points (75) friend (71). Sleeping with the boss works lol.

By: rosanne keen

rosanne keen — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 17:25:06 +0000

I always knew, from the moment I looked in Theo's eyes at a maple leaf practice, that he had suffered the sexual torment and abuse. So called 'victims' can always see the hurt in the eyes of another 'victim', and as someone who also suffered sexual abuse as a child, i knew that this man, his sweet soul and his sad compelling eyes were shading the truth. I am sad that your life has been such a struggle…mine continues to be and will probably never end…we are 'victims' till the end but you have endured and grown and spat in the face of this evil monster…good luck theo…we are all cheering for your life to be blessed with peace and happiness…

By: trina98

trina98 — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 10:26:40 +0000

I didn't say this in my earlier post I wish you the best of luck on your return Theo, you deserve a second chance and I do hope you can make the most of it. Congrats also on your coming out against James and finally freeing yourself of the demons that have plagued your life. Good luck at staying clean and sober, my hope is you haven't done something in your past that will come back to haunt you health wise in the future. One day at time!

By: trina98

trina98 — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 10:24:22 +0000

I feel for Theo and Sheldon,it is heartbreaking what they were subjected to at the hands of a power mongering pediophile like James masquerading as a concerned and caring hockey coach. The fact that any minor hockey coach should have any kind of real impact on whether a kid makes the NHL or not really bothers me. That opens the door for any kind of maniac coach not just a pediophile. My son was once coach by a cop who repeatedly told the boys that anything that went on in the dressing room was not to be told to the parents, and that is so not ok with me, and this creep led the parents and kids to think he was the path to the NHL as well. We spend yrs telling kids to tell us about anything like this happening to them yet they are told by someone in authority they can't talk about it. Minor hockey must do a better job of screening these creeps to keep our children safe.

By: Carol Sandberg

Carol Sandberg — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 02:51:47 +0000

Some people are mad that Fleury took him toCalgary but it wasn't until James was hired to the Hitmen organization that he was finally put in jail. Almost immediately the kids on the team were linked up to a policeman, before anything even hit the press. I wonder if this was Fleury's way of finally getting him put in jail without having to come out publically about it. The WHL couldn't very well continue to ignore the problem when it was right in their backyard. (this is assuming that the WHL had heard rumors of James behavior already). Maybe there was a method to his madness. Maybe Fleury knew something would finally be done if James was dumped on the WHL's doorstep. Don't be so quick to judge the victim. Good luck to everyone James hurt and is still hurting.

By: Joyce

Joyce — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 01:20:27 +0000

No one should have to go through what you went through. On the other hand I find it very strange you would hire Graham James when you were part owner of the Hitmen.

By: c.francis

c.francis — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 21:25:36 +0000

Theo

I have always enjoyed watching you play…you certainly were a sparkplug for the Flames etal. I am so glad that you have the courage it takes to come forward with this. Sheldon Kennedy and you have paved the way for others to admit this when it first happens not years later. I am so sorry for both of you that you were intimidated into keeping this quiet. I so hope that if any other young players find themselves in the same situation that they will have the courage to come forward immediately and hopefully escape some of the deep wounds that you and Sheldon have suffered. God Bless you for coming forward and taking it out of the closet and into the light where others can see the long term effects of this horrible crime.

By: Phil

Phil — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 13:28:22 +0000

Theo, you are my hero for many reasons. Particularly for coming out of the shadows and encouraging other men who have been abused to seek help. For we victims/survivors, life is filled with challenges and pain. And we cannot unring the bell. Hopefully all parents will read your book and be educated/warned about the potential for all boys who are under the supervision of coaches and men in positions in authority who could alter the lives of their children forever. God bless you Theo and all the best to you.

By: Joe

Joe — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 11:04:08 +0000

Thank you Theo for being brave and telling your secret to the world. This happens to boys more often than people would like to admit. We here about the sexual abuse of women more often. But with us men its a difficult subject and most who have been abused feel ashamed and never come forward. I applaud your bravery and for exposing this hideous side of life. God bless you and may you find comfort and solice in the knowledge that we are all brothers and many of us have been through similar experiences and you gave us a voice.

By: Liz Walker

Liz Walker — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 08:02:10 +0000

Hey Theo we are all behind you while you are on your brave journey.

By: Paul Buchanan

Paul Buchanan — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 07:44:17 +0000

why don't some of Graham's die-hard friends step up and say something? worried that your dark sides might be exposed also? those that provided character witnesses at the Sheldon Kennedy episode.. any comments now? any guts? or do you also have things you want to keep under cover? gay men control junior hockey team. I guess that wouldn't sound too good? not too macho.

By: concerned parent

concerned parent — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 05:50:02 +0000

It wasn't until James was hired to the Hitmen organization that he was finally put in jail. Almost immediately the kids on the team were linked up to a policeman, before anything even hit the press. I wonder if this was Fleury's way of finally getting him put in jail without having to come out publically about it. The WHL couldn't very well continue to ignore the problem when it was right in their backyard. (this is assuming that the WHL had heard rumors of James behavior already). Maybe there was a method to his madness. Maybe Fleury knew something would finally be done if James was dumped on the WHL's doorstep. Don't be so quick to judge the victim.

By: Denn

Denn — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 05:45:17 +0000

SAD – so sad – child abuse is a major epidemic in our society – affecting many many boys & girls – coaches, teachers, ministers, rabbis, priests & the largest group of abusers – family members!!

We need to all look out for the little ones – abusers are almost always known to the children & their parents. They are not strangers – but those in a position of trust!! God help all of us who have looked the other way & ran from the truth out of fear!! Please Canadians wake up & protect the little ones!!

By: Denn

Denn — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 05:28:50 +0000

Got to love you man – another cynical S.O.B. – you like kicking guys when they are down!! May God touch your heart with a humble sense of loving others!!

By: H Laird

H Laird — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 02:37:52 +0000

Exactly, the NHL did what was best for the organization, not Theo…no surprise in that. As Theo had remarked, if he came forward with issues of abuse by a "well respected and connected" coach in the league, he would not have been heard…good on Sheldon for being the first to talk…and good on Theo now for exposing what so often occurs within these organizations. Imagine…13 years old…disgusting…that is where the hockey world needs to step up – where is the support now from the NHL…they allow this to occur for the greed of their own desires. Where is our Wayne…as a leader he should step up and denounce…I have to ask, if you were sexually molested and all your trust in the world destroyed…how would you deal with it other than trying to numb the pain…just be grateful and give thanks on this Thanksgiving weekend you never had to go through what these boys went through. At least they have the courage to stand up and face not only addictions but the shame of what an adult had committed against them…they are stronger than anyone will ever be able to face up to…and I know what I am talking about.

By: Renee

Renee — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 23:59:50 +0000

My husband, daughter and I met Theo when he started playing for the Black Hawks, at some practice sessions. I had a feeling he had issues, and that his problems ran deep. I even wrote to him way back then to express concern. There was something about him that reminded me of my brother and I didn’t want to see him end up like he did (deceased at 33)

I wish him lots of peace now. It was very brave of him to finally get those secrets out. Hopefully the road ahead will be a smoother one.