Colonel Williams’ wife, under attack

An accused killer’s spouse struggles to rebuild her shattered life

by Michael Friscolanti and Cathy Gulli, with Martin Patriquin on Tuesday, July 27, 2010 9:52am - 321 Comments

The Heart and Stroke Foundation issued a statement of “complete support” for its associate executive director, describing Harriman as “a kind and compassionate individual” and a “long-serving, greatly admired and universally liked member of our team.” At the headquarters building of CFB Trenton, many of Williams’s stunned subordinates immediately thought of Mary-Liz. “I feel absolutely horrible for his wife,” said Lt.-Col. David Alexander, who worked down the hall from Williams. “She is not as much of a victim as Marie-France Comeau or Jessica Lloyd or the women attacked in the Tweed area, but her life has been changed and altered through no fault of her own.”

But now, a judge is being asked to decide whether Harriman did do something wrong. On March 22, six weeks after her world was shattered, she made a deal with her incarcerated husband. He took the notorious Tweed cottage; she took the Ottawa townhouse, paying him $62,000 in cash and assuming the remainder of the mortgage. Williams’s first alleged assault victim—a 21-year-old woman who was blindfolded, stripped naked, and photographed while her baby daughter slept in another room—now claims in a lawsuit that the “suspicious” real estate deal was a “fraudulent conveyance” aimed at thwarting her pursuit of damages. The victim’s lawyer, Michael Pretsell, declined to comment.

In defence documents, Harriman says “her reputation in the community is exemplary” and “at no time was there any intention whatsoever to fraudulently defeat” the victim’s claim. “The revelation of the criminal charges against the defendant Williams and the defendant Harriman’s identity as his wife has been devastating to her,” her lawyer wrote. “In addition to the obvious emotional devastation to her, the defendant Harriman’s previously anticipated future and financial security had become jeopardized.”

Harriman and her lawyer did not respond to repeated emails and phone calls seeking comment. Maclean’s also contacted dozens of Harriman’s friends, relatives, colleagues and associates, but very few agreed to be interviewed. They respect her so much, and feel such sympathy for what she has endured, that they figure it’s best to keep quiet. A spokeswoman for the Heart and Stroke Foundation also declined to speak, answering every question with a “no comment.”

Is Harriman still visiting her husband in prison? Does Williams phone the house? Does a part of her still cling to the hope that he might actually be innocent, and that the police have made a terrible mistake? Has he apologized to her?

For now—and perhaps forever—Harriman is not saying.

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What is obvious, though, is that she is determined to regain some semblance of a normal life. She has moved back into the Westboro townhouse that was once surrounded by yellow police tape and television news trucks. She has returned to her office in downtown Ottawa, where colleagues have been nothing but supportive (and where she was served with the lawsuit). And in June, after her 19th wedding anniversary passed with her husband in prison, Harriman helped usher in the first-ever Canadian Stroke Congress, a major conference of the leading experts in stroke prevention, treatment and recovery. Not surprisingly, her photo did not appear in the program alongside other members of the organizing committee.

Michael Gennis, who lives in the townhouse next to hers, spoke to Harriman when she returned home, long after all the camera crews left. “I said to her: ‘I’m sorry for what you’re going through,’ ” he recalls. Harriman’s response, however unnecessary, is yet another testament to her character. “She just apologized for having put the neighbourhood through all the scrutiny.

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  • Sal123

    So many of you who comment know NOT of what you speak. Firstly, it seems to me that some poster here doesn't know his English too well when he can't recognize 'adjectives! Secondly, my hubby served with the Airforce for over 30 years and we've been in Trenton and yes I've met the ex Colonel very briefly and you would never know he was a monster but he is!! He and his wife almost lived separate lives; she lived in Ottawa and he lived in Trenton, occupying a 'married quarter' (on base, as is regulated) plus he fluctuated between there and his cottage in Tweed. Occasionally his wife came to Trenton for a visit while other times he visited Ottawa on a weekend (when he wasn't elsewhere on duty). I can truly say (am willing to swear on a stack of bibles) that in no way did Ms. Harriman know anything of 'his' double life. So bottom line here is please 'think' and do your research before speculating as you have done. So now that the case is 'almost' all over (he will rot in jail, thank God)… I say 'almost' simply because there remains ongoing investigations throughout other bases on which the ex Colonel served during his military career. His 'activities' didn't just begin in 2006!!! He's a monster and a real sicko!!

  • Sal123

    Hey TIRED, there you go again…. please get your facts right …. Ms. Harriman and the ex Colonel lived apart most of the week except on her occasional visits to Trenton or his odd weekend to Ottawa. She knew nothing of his monstrous activities. My hubby was in the military for many years and a lot of time we were apart due to his military temporary duties away. It amazes me to see so much speculation here rather than facts. It only takes a bit of research to learn those facts!!!

  • Grace

    I feel obligated to defend the writers of this article. I thought it was well researched and within the bounds of good journalism. I did not think there was over emphasis on Ms. Harriman's profession in the charity. It was well balanced. I enjoyed knowing she was mentioned in the House of Commons. In every way before and after this tragedy came to light Ms, Harriman has tried to be a decent human being. No wonder her friends and co workers are protective of her. She deserves such loyalty.

    • Ruth

      Good for you Grace ! Ms. Harriman has been through so much the passed year. I hope she never reads many of the uncharitable comments made about her !

  • Pat

    There has been over the last few years many instances relating to current/no longer in service personnel from the Canadian Forces,namely MichealWhite in Edmonton,and now this in Trenton ,Ontario.Ive herd of ex miltary personnel,threatoning people in the work place([ll rip your arm off,and beat you over the head with it.)I think there are a lot more disturbed C.F.personnel than we know of.

  • Anna

    I found it difficult to believe that the wife did not know something was wrong. He kept all that stolen lingerie in their homes. How did she not see it? Also, it is a bizarre decisionon her part to keep the 2 homes. How can you live in the homes you shared with a monster? How do the families of the victims feel- remember, many of the victims lived in the neighborhood. And how can she speak out about her concern for her financial well-being but not the victims? Seems shallow, materialistic and self-centered to me. Wish they'd both disappear from the face of th earth.

  • Anna

    So she knew nothing, is a kind hearted soul, yet continues to visit her husband, this serial rapist and killer in jail? And she wants to keep the homes where the horrific deeds were committed? Any reasonable person would be too disturbed and horrified to live in those homes. And what about the impact to the victims that still live in the neighborhood? This woman is beyond sick!!!

  • Anne

    We should start our own fund for victims of these horrible crimes.
    We should ask the miliary and Mary Liz for a donation.

  • Amy

    This article is embarrassingly skewed in sympathetic favour of the wife. I agree 100% that she should receive NONE of his assets – they should go to a victim's services fund. People are getting their priorities messed up in my humble opinion. I have sympathy for the women her husband murdered, not for the murder's wife – she's still breathing the air and financially secure. Those dead women are secure in the ground. And maybe I have it backward, but I find it kind of cold that she has not spoken publically to express her pain for the victims or their families. Strikes me as self concerned.

  • Jan

    I think we should sue her to get back the money the police paid her for the floors they scratched and the lamp they damaged. Why didn't she get the money from her killer husband, like she got the property and the pension? Oh, yeah, because she would have had to stand in line behind REAL victims.

    Piece of work, the both of them.

  • Anonymous

    You have to be joking.  The poor woman has suffered enough.  I can only imagine how devastated she must be through no fault of her own.

  • Ruth

    Personally I would have sold both houses and moved somewhere else. Why keep a house that has such bad memories of someone that betrayed you? As for the person sueing; give me a break – what does the wife have to do with that? It wasn't her that committed the crimes so why should she pay for it? As for making a six figure salary – if it was a guy no one would say anything – because it is a woman, everyone is badmouthing her? Would that I could make such a salary.

  • Tired

    According to other news sources – Williams snuck out of bed/house to do his dirty deeds – leaving Harriman fast asleep. Now – I sleep deeply but…. I know when my spouse gets up – one just knows!! Am getting a bad feeling here!!

  • jeff

    Ruth, I'm not sure what is so hard to understand. The women is sueing to get damages and the man who committed the crimes is sheilding his assets by transferring them to someone else. This isn't allowed,period.

    People would say the same thing about a man making a six(6) figure salery if he was being a greedy SOB too.

  • jeff

    no so hard to do. I'm a couch sleeper and my wife wouldn't miss me either. My wife has a bad feeling either way.

  • Kathryn_C

    I guess your spouse keeps pretty regular hours?____My own used to work road construction and left at the crack of dawn some mornings but not always. Likewise he was often on the road and could be away from home all together for most of the week. One adjusts and where once you always woke when he left, after a while you don't.____ No doubt a military wife has had to do the same over the years.

  • From Belleville

    It took 6 pages to inform us, repeatedly, of Williams wife's pain and charity work? There has been no new information presented within this article. Is it an attempt to drum up support and sympathy for the wife, to justify the exchange of assets so that victims could not recovery anything from Williams' estate? The wife has a 6 figure income; my guess is that the income level of the victims combined cannot compare. Yet the wife is justifying her greed by stating she has to "secure her future?" Let's face it, would someone live in the property that has been violated in spirit by her husband and then violated by the legal system with searches and warrants? Or, more realistically, is she going to sell it and use the proceeds to buy another home?

    William's assets should be frozen until he is sentenced, at which time the wife and the victims should have equal dibs on any assets. Of course the wife wants her financial situation to remain hidden because she really can't justify the deal, as she is extremely secure, financially. It is disappointing to see someone who is supposedly so charitable jump in there like a dirty shift, and have no regard for the victims of the crimes.

    And yes, she does visit the jail regularly.

  • Tired

    The ugly truth is that she will never be able to sell that house – who else would want it?? Bernardos home in St. Catherines had to be bulldozed. The cottage in Tweed will likely suffer the same fate too – so much for the assets!

  • sandras

    How would you know that she visits the jail regularly?

  • Sara

    This article is mis-named. Harriman does not seem to be under any kind of "attack". Unless the story is referring to the 21 year old actual victim who is suing Harriman for removing Williams' name from the deed of Harriman's house. Harriman isn't under attack at all. Seems that Macleans is sucking up to Harriman with this mis-named article hoping that she will grant them the first exclusive story. I do feel bad for Harriman, but she isn't a victim. The victims are the women who Williams attacked and/or murdered and their families. Harriman should have issued some sort of starement of support to and of the victims. Also, she shouldn't be making the Ottawa Police department and Canadian tax payers pay to replace her hardwood floor which apparently got scratched while the police were searching her beloved Ottawa home for evidence against Willliams.

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