Colonel Williams’ wife, under attack

An accused killer’s spouse struggles to rebuild her shattered life

by Michael Friscolanti and Cathy Gulli, with Martin Patriquin on Tuesday, July 27, 2010 9:52am - 321 Comments

Jim Rankin/Toronto Star/ Jerome Lessard/QMI Agency

On July 15, 2009, an hour before Col. Russell Williams was sworn in as the new boss of CFB Trenton, a two-seater jet skidded off the air base runway and smashed through a fence.

The plane, a 1950s-era Canadian Forces Silver Star, was being delivered to a private buyer in the U.S. when something went wrong during takeoff, forcing the pilot to abort.

For a few minutes, at least, the crash threatened to spoil Williams’s big day: his official change-of-command parade. But as emergency crews raced to the plane, they found a scene that could have been much worse. The pilot was conscious and alert, and the jet, resting on its belly, was still intact. So shortly after one o’clock, with the pilot safely in hospital, the festivities went ahead as planned.

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If the accident was an omen for the unthinkable things to come, only Williams could have known that at the time. In the eyes of everyone else gathered at his swearing-in ceremony—including his wife of 18 years, Mary-Elizabeth Harriman—the colonel deserved what he was about to receive: the reins of Canada’s largest and most strategically important air base, a vital hub that does everything from search-and-rescue operations to welcoming home the flag-draped caskets returning from Afghanistan.

Harriman, a senior official at the Heart and Stroke Foundation of Canada, sat smiling in the front row that Wednesday afternoon as her husband, dressed in his crisp air force blues, accepted the commander’s pennant from his predecessor, Col. Mike Hood. In his speech, Williams thanked the friends who had come to celebrate his prestigious posting. He thanked Hood, now a brigadier general, for his “outstanding leadership” over the previous two years. And he thanked his wife, a woman who had watched him go from rookie officer to the prime minister’s personal pilot to the senior man at 8 Wing, an assignment that almost surely would have ended with a promotion to general.

Following military tradition, Hood, the outgoing commander, presented Harriman with a bouquet of flowers. “She was very excited about Russ’s new job,” says one air force employee, who spoke to Harriman that day. “They were very much in love.”

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If detectives are correct, by the time Harriman was handed those flowers, her husband had already broken into 33 different homes—including one house six separate times—and stolen hundreds of women’s undergarments, including bras, panties and even bathing suits. And in the coming months, with his wife oblivious to his perverted double life, Williams would allegedly graduate from lingerie burglar to serial predator. Now locked in a solitary cell, awaiting his next court date, the former air force star is accused of sexually assaulting two women and killing two others: Marie-France Comeau, a 38-year-old corporal stationed at his base, and Jessica Lloyd, 27, a Belleville, Ont., woman whose body was dumped at the side of a dirt road.

Comeau was buried at Ottawa’s National Military Cemetery on Dec. 4, 2009. In the days after her funeral, while police hunted for a killer, the colonel and his wife attended a number of Christmas parties at CFB Trenton, including four in one night. Lloyd vanished on Jan. 28, a Thursday. Williams and Harriman were together at their Ottawa home that weekend, his last as a free man.

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  • LAloisio

    Financial security, and retirement security, I don't feel sorry for. Mary-Elizabeth Harriman doesn't have my sympathy because she wasn't one of the women who were raped and then murdered. Those women that are now dead were truly robbed of their lives because they were murdered. Mary-Elizabeth, come on, and make a public statement now instead of trying to avoid scandal or keep quiet so as to keep your "exemplary" professional reputation with The Heart and Stroke Foundation and in the public's eyes.

  • wondering in ontario

    I am concerned at the wife's apparent insensitivity to the victims. I am concerned at the transfer of title once he was in prison. I am concerned at the demand for compensation over a scratch to a wood floor. I am further concerned that a person can be paid so highly for working with an organization that "begs" for money from the community. It is no wonder that the administrative costs of this particular organization are so high. I, for one, will no longer be contributing. And, it would be nice to have some of the questions answered with regard to MEH.

  • MDavis

    I say people who say things like this about this lady are very full of sin and should wash their mouths out with soap.This lady does not deserve this kind of treatment from the likes of you.

    • kathy moreau

      I agree 100% with you MDavis.. If everyone else could be in Ms.Harriman's shoes right now..Wow!! No one really knows or cares what she is feeling..Come on we are all humans here..Sure she didn't talk to the public..Maybe she should have? But everyone is still going to have their own opinion of her anyway..What can she say that would make all of you to feel better?Her husband is the creep..She is not guilty of anything..She married an unstable man..We all make mistakes in life..I feel such sorrow for the victims and his wife..

  • Donna Lavers

    I have a very difficult time believing that Mary Elizabeth Harriman did not know that her husband was a deviant. When you share a home with someone, and a bed, you tend to know that person like no other. Also, what type of boundaries could have been agreed upon for Mary Elizabeth Harriman to 'Not discover' the panties, bra's and the pictures taken from victims. Perhaps Mary Elizabeth Harriman was guilty as well…perhaps she was subjected to sexual acts that she couldn't keep up with and when her husband was out, she knew someone else was fufiling his fantasies. i THINK THEY BOTH SHOULD BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE and she had to have known that SOMETHING was happening..after all she had a degree in the Sciences..????

    • timmackee

      Read some of the postings…two at least…of other wives who lived with monsters for extended periods of time. You know nothing about the sociopathic personality….none of the military seem to have known either, and they spent at last as much time, if not more with him. He would never have become Commander in Chief at CFB Trenton if anyone had heard something like this.

      People with no conscience can keep lives very very separate — they are adept at lying and at covering their tracks.

      And intelligence has nothing to do with knowing or not knowing. She trusted her husband — everyone trusted her husband. I only hope you never face this truth — and evil — first hand.

      • Guest

        Sorry, but your logic doesn't hold here. Generally psychopaths/sociopaths "leak" their true nature, and they can't keep up appearances in all areas of their lives. SOMEONE KNEW!!! It's often true that many "pillars of the community" look wonderful on the outside, but almost invariably their families will attest to their true behaviour at home. Less commonly people will be "OK-ish" at home, but take their anger/deviancy/power needs out on workplace subordinates. It's very rare (I would say probably impossible) that someone is able to keep that side of themselves hidden from everyone. Sorry, but that just doesn't happen.

        I've personally met people (and their unfortunate children) who decry how they "didn't know" but who were laughing all the way to the sympathy-bank. Their children often tell a far different tale. Not everyone, of course – there are SOME innocent victims. But enough that we should question the innocent looking "I didn't know" crowd.

  • timmackee

    "That same night, Feb. 7, Harriman was alone at the couple’s swank new townhouse in the trendy Westboro district of Ottawa. After months of delays (and after selling their long-time home in Orléans), the construction was finally finished. They moved in just a few days before Christmas—a month after Comeau was killed, and a month before Lloyd went missing. They had been there barely a month (and Williams mostly on weekends) when cops came looking for the stolen lingerie."

    I am totally amazed by the fact people keep asking why she would want to keep the townhouse "after all the things that had happened there". Um??? Barely a month and he had only been there on weekends……

    She does not deserve this…she has a right to keep a roof over her head. I can't imagine what h*ll she is going through.

  • timmackee

    Thank you for sharing this. It is a pain close to home. People who post "she should have known" have never lived in a situation like that. I am glad you and your children found your way through the pain to a better place.

  • Guest

    A brilliant comment. I too would like to know the answers to those questions.

  • Janet

    A man who has two faces with a woman is often described as a mysogynist. Such a man treats a woman admirably, but will ultimately turn against her and treat her with disdain. Williams, according to the press, has always treated his wife admirably, but what about behind closed doors? Were there mood swings that his wife learned to accommodate to or bullying tactics that she once again simply accepted? Mysogynists are woman haters, who are usually the products of a scarred realtionship with their mothers. Judging by the terror that he put his poor victims through, Williams is most definitely a woman hater. Also his relationship with his mother has had its problems due to the second divorce. Yet I have not seen the mysogynistic angle addressed. I still think that there is a LOT more to this story and the material is familiar to the mother and Mary-Liz. Janet.

    • phoebewallingford

      Agree with everything you said here.

  • Carmen

    how can you as a wife and woman continue to live in one of those ill famed homes?
    Does this woman have any demnity?

  • phoebewallingford

    You people feel you can comment on this woman when you don’t know her and many of you have obviously not read every word that the reporters tweeted and blogged from court, or watched his confession video.

    1) The cops know she was not involved because he kept a detailed diary of every moment of all of those crimes. They read lots of it in court. If she wasn’t in that diary, she wasn’t involved.

    2) Finding out that the cops were descending on her house with search warrants while he was being interviewed was the major thing that broke him into confessing. First of all, because of her finding out that he was this monster. Second of all, because of them tearing her house apart. That’s why he told them where to find everything. And probably to avoid a long protracted trial for her sake. I think if it wasn’t for her, he might have gambled on it. (Or not — a lot more photos etc would have been displayed). She wasn’t involved.

  • phoebewallingford

    3) We don’t know how the cops messed her floor and broke her lamp or what their attitude was. They’re paying up aren’t they? That must mean something. She has every right. If the cops were in your house regarding a crime that had nothing to do with you and they broke stuff wouldn’t you want to get paid back? Why is it different for her because her husband was the one being investigated?

    4) Her “tone” in her court documents sounding cold and heartless. I would assume that her lawyer wrote that stuff and stuff written for court is in legalese. Not intended to convey emotions one way or the other. The stuff we have heard wasn’t intended for public consumption. We haven’t heard anything from her that is in her own words.

  • phoebewallingford

    5) I have every right to be concerned about my future security. If my husband commits a monstrous crime tomorrow, do I no longer have that right? Plus I don’t blame her for not wanting to own the home where the rape/murder took place and wanting to own the one that was her “dream house” (so described by Russ himself). He’d hardly spent any time in it anyway and committed none of the crimes in or from it (other than storage).

    6) Why didn’t she wonder about all the lingerie piled all over the place? It wasn’t. It was hidden in the ceiling of the basement. They may well have had their own home offices and he could have had a shop in the basement or whatever. Spouses don’t necessarily snoop each other’s home spaces. As for the notion that moving would have disclosed it? An obsessive compulsive organized man like that would have no trouble disguising a collection among all the other stuff.

  • phoebewallingford

    I mean, why she visits him is none of our business. Not why he snapped.

    Glad she has a loving and effective support system.

    However, I’m not going to donate to any charities through those kind of foundations anymore either!

  • JimJones009

    Oh the POOR WIFEY, antoher victim. WHAT BS. Are we supposed to believe that this woman, a senior executive, an intelligent woman KNEW NOTHING? Laughable.

    This man goes out how many nights by "himself" to reconnituer his victims, plan, he keeps trophies IN THIER HOUSE and she does not become aware, suspicious???? She never found these things.

    They lived in a Military Cocoon, a rumour mill extrodinaire and this man simply does all of these things and no one knows???? She was unable to get information from people on the BASE. There were no whisperings, no girl talk, no suspicions no wonderings, no WTF are you doing dear or Honey we need to talk?

    GOD I am tired of this typecasting. The man is a horrible deviant that should be killed for his crimes BUT I will bet the remainder of my pathetic net worth that this woman was a part of this.

    PEOPLE knew about this guy. I hope she get caught. I hope he confesses, you know why he was smiling during his confession? Because he has many many more secrets to tell!

  • phoebewallingford

    He wasn't smiling once he got to the confession part. She didn't hang out at the base. And those cops would definitely have nailed her if she were involved.

    I can't believe the stuff people are saying about this poor woman.

  • phoebewallingford

    Oh, and why do people who obviously have not read what's out there from court, and obviously not watched the confession video, think they know anything about this case? Ridiculous!

  • Rae

    regarding her still loving him…..

    Just a total yuck. If a woman can still love a man and visit him in prison after it is obvious he was raping and killing other women……….she is clearly pathetic and deserves our scorn.

    • Ruth

      Rae….you are showing us you don't know too much about love in a relation of 20 years !

  • robyntara

    Last time I checked, it was Russell Williams who committed the crimes, not his wife. There is no evidence to date to prove that his wife had anything to do with it. And to the horrid person who said she should be at home like an archaic 1950s housewife rather than doing right for the world with her career, shame on you for your cold and ignorant words. You don`t know anything about what is or isn`t true — none of us do apparently. Hang in there, Mary-Elizabeth.

    • Rae

      Robyn,

      What do you think of a woman who remains married to a man like Williams and visits with him regularly while in prison?
      I'm curious what you would say of her actions.

  • Maryse

    harriman is williams' biggest supporter and is no victim. she still sees herself as the "colonel's wife." she lives in a world of lies and delusion by her own choosing.

  • Carol

    The parallel between Williams and his wife are creepy. Both successful, public figures, over achievers. Both private to the extreme and both very self centered. And plz don't repeat the word "charity" : When are we going to learn that even people that appear above average can be bad behind closed doors. Common courtesy would be for Mary to publicly make even a small statement to the victims. Or to privately do this. But she has not. Instead, she demands her hardwood floors get replaced (instead of fixed) at a cost of $3000.00 to the taxpayers. She files a statement of defense regarding her financial future with not one word about how sorry she is. She wants her finances and testimony of defense kept private while what happened to the victims is basically an open book. She is not above reproach. She is not a compassionate self-sacrificing person. She would not be working for this charity if she was not getting paid a huge salary. Lets remember, Williams did not hide everything. As quoted…"Yet nearly all the stolen undergarments and sex toys Williams kept were simply stuffed into bags and boxes found in the basement and garage of the Ottawa house, in plain sight." http://www.thestar.com/news/article/880090

  • lindie

    The damage to the custom built "dream home" was caused by the police in the process of a lawful search of the "marital assets" jointly owned by Russell. The cost of paying for the damage directly attributable to his crimes should more properly have been deducted by Ms. Harriman from the amount of money she paid to Russell as his share of the proceeds from their home in Ottawa, not borne by the taxpayers, whether she was legally entitled to it or not. We're not talking about a low income innocent family whose patriarch turned out to be a criminal and now the wife is on the hook to the landlord for property damage. These were 2 childless professional people earning in the range of a $250K per year between them and sitting on almost $1 million dollars worth of real estate. Unlike most working people,Russell and Mary-Liz could well afford to absorb the tab for scratched floors and a very expensive lamp. I have to question her scruples and judgment, which begs other questions about her sense of right, wrong and morality, particularly in light of the company she so closely kept.

  • argus

    how much is a six figure sum/dollars 100000 or 999999 = the murdered victims will never earn a five figure amount.fairs fair. All the relatives of the mudered victims to take a civil action against her for loss of the victims love. May the survivors of his bestiality be compensated by her/
    May the owners of the houses broken into take a class action against her for invasion of privacy.

  • Guest

    My, my all your judgements about a woman who was simply related to the man, not complicit in his crimes! It is not Colonel Williams wife who was under trial!
    She is not the criminal. If the police thought she was complicit in something, she would have been charged with something.

  • Ruth

    So sad to read most of the comments here. And we call ourselves Christian ??????

  • hopealison14

    You are sick. Mary Elizabeth involved in that? Got proof? The police already interviewed her. Read about John Wayne Gacy? Did his wife know?

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