Are we raising our boys to be underachieving men?

The social and economic consequences of letting boys fall behind

by John Intini on Monday, October 18, 2010 4:00pm - 0 Comments
Are we raising our boys to be underachieving men?

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The trick to having a baby girl, according to researchers in the Netherlands, is a calcium- and magnesium-rich diet, full of hard cheese, rhubarb, spinach, canned salmon and tofu. It’s also important, claim the authors of the study, for women to steer clear of salty foods, potatoes and bananas. Though the study was based on a small sample, it wouldn’t be a shock if the results prompted prospective parents to stock their fridges accordingly.

As Robert Bly and others prophesied in the 1990s, when they retreated to the woods to beat drums and exhort men to embrace their inner caveman, the modern male is in danger of losing his way. The process apparently begins early. On average, boys earn lower marks, study less, and are more likely to repeat a grade than girls. Young men are more likely to drop out of high school and less likely to graduate university than young women. And while they still dominate in engineering and computer science, men are outnumbered in most professional programs, including law and medicine.

Today, the average Canadian university campus is 58 per cent female. In fact, at some schools, men only make up about 30 to 35 per cent of the students. “Any country allowing 60/40 female-male college graduation rates is not putting its ‘best team’ forward,” argues Richard Whitmire, author of Why Boys Fail. “Men need a degree just to get to the starting line. College has become the new high school; that degree is what employers look for as a guarantee of basic social and communication skills.”

Nobody worth listening to is calling for society to turn back the clock on the advances made by women in the last 40 years. Writing in the Observer last year, Bahram Bekhradnia, director of the London-based Higher Education Policy Institute, warned against simply ignoring the gap. “It matters in the same way that 30 years ago it mattered that fewer girls went to university than boys,” he wrote. “Graduates, after all, tend to form the elites of society and, as women have come to dominate in higher education, we should expect these elites to change gender over time, too. That itself is no bad thing. What is intolerable is that significant numbers of young (and not so young) people are excluding themselves—or perhaps being excluded because of aspects of our school system—from joining these elites.”

Indira Samarasekera, the president of the University of Alberta, was more direct when she described the gender gap at post-secondary schools to the Edmonton Journal as a “demographic bomb.” She went on to say that programs to encourage female CEOs should take a backseat to a much bigger concern: “that we’ll wake up in 20 years and we will not have the benefit of enough male talent at the heads of companies and elsewhere.”

This is not to say that women run the world—yet. There’s no denying that a wage gap—and a glass ceiling—persists in the workplace. In Canada, even a young woman with a university degree earns about 90 cents to every dollar earned by a man with a similar level of education.

But women now experience lower unemployment rates than men, and one large-scale American study showed the start of the kind of change it has taken generations to accomplish. It found that childless urban women under the age of 30 earn, on average, eight per cent more than their male peers. The gap is even wider in places like New York City (17 per cent) and Los Angeles (12 per cent). Whether these same young women continue to lead the next decade will depend largely on how many of them decide to stay home full-time to raise children, or even just get off the fast track by moving to part-time. Still, a lot more young women than men have been able to take advantage of the higher earnings that come with higher levels of education.

As the number of stay-at-home dads has tripled in the last three decades, women are more and more the family’s primary breadwinners, a trend sped up by the recession, which struck male-dominated industries, including manufacturing and construction, the hardest. Men accounted for an estimated 71 per cent of the 400,000 jobs lost in Canada during the downturn. Thanks to a commitment to education, young women seem better positioned for the knowledge- and service-based economy of the future. The majority of the job sectors expected to grow the most in North America during the next decade are ones traditionally filled by women, such as nursing.

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  • guest

    catholic schools in ontario are co-ed.

  • Betty

    I agree. I was looking forward to the article, knowing it was in MacLeans I assumed the research would be credible.

  • Betty

    well, I've been up and down on my opinion of males over the years. always trying to figure them out. my son made me wonder more about men than all of the boyfriends and the one husband I've had. I have a 22 yo son and a 23 yo daughter. us parents created a 2-home family and neither Dad nor I found another spouse. my daughter became affected by 'clinical depression' while in residence at university (insomnia) after she had many accomplishments and a well developed self esteem, my son on the other hand was 'noticed' to fall into this category around age 11, but in retrospect was in it from a very early age, maybe 2. he was not able to attend school with any regularity and seemed confused even by his backpack and the contents thereof…imagine…'where is the homework'…never mind…he didn't even get it that he was to go home after school and I'd spend 45 minutes looking for him every day…
    I am beginning to think our boys need a Mother that can take care of them properly and not drop them into daycare. remember that old saying the way to a man's heart…, well that was in a day when we thought men responded to being taken care of, maybe there is more to that than we know. my Dad was out in the field all day and came home to sit by the kitchen stove in all his authourity when I was growing up, my brothers did as well as us girls in the long run but I remember my little brother needed a kick start from time to time. so, was it our Mother who brought us up then? I'd say so.

  • Dubcik

    Geez, somehow the problem of boys falling behind is written away as they are just plain "lazy", "confused" and have "no drive". And, then the end of the article laments on how this affects women – i.e. boys falling behind is really hurting women because they are no marriagable men for all these well educated, high earning women. What a joke of an article.

    • Mortuus

      True lot of assholes in the world but that doesnt make the women more mature too, like it says in the article, anyway maturity is not something concret it cannot be measured and everyone has a different meaning for it, i think that article is obiously ridiculous

  • Dubcik

    How about finding some REAL answers about why boys are falling behind, and treating this problem with real concern, not just tallying it up to lazy boys concluded by the one women quoted here.

    What about the decline of the family? The high divorce rates and the slim chance that fathers can be anything more that "visitors" every other weekend after a divorce? What about the huge increase in public sector jobs, most taken up by women? What about the lack of male role models as teachers in schools? What about the high suicide rate of boys? And 71% of all jobs lost in the recession were to men, not because women are more adaptable in the "new economy", but because men do most of the hard labour, and are not well represented in the public sector jobs. This should be HUGE news! 71% of job losses were to men, and this is mentioned as a mere after-thought?

    This article does not dig deep enough, or offer anything for people to work with. You could just print a t-shirt "boys are stupid" and walk around with it on, it would serve the education on this topic as well as this article does.

  • Mortuus

    I think… n00bs you d00ds are sexists, that all lies! ROFLROFL PWNT!

    • Someone

      i'm sorry Mortuus, but this is a real thing, serious business… I'm sure that you're a guy…

      • Mortuus

        and im sure you are a n00b, i will shack your wooshing blit with my ubar 1337 hax FTW?

  • Guest

    What happens to those males/females who really aren't that smart?

    Not everyone is meant to "climb the ladder" and in fact, many people just don't cut it in post-secondary or as leaders.

    I fear for all those kids…as these types of manual labour jobs are becoming extinct.

  • anon

    In this generation there is no guarantee that by going to college/university and getting a degree you will get a job. In previous generations this was the case. A degree or diploma is becoming the extension of high school and there are a lot of places that will not take a second look at your resume without one of these two things on it. At the same time, what motivation is there to complete a three or four year degree while going into massive debts knowing at the end of it all you could still be unemployed and living at home.

    Not to mention the fact that when you are applying to college or university you are supposed to know what it is you want to do for the rest of your life. I believe the statistics say that the new generation of workers will have up to seven different jobs/careers in their lifetime.

    There are no quick answers to these issues, but at least by talking about them we can acknowledge their existence and try to understand the pressure these young adults are under. It's a whole other ballgame. Unless you're in it, you don't know what it's like.

  • michael

    -girls are more likely to be a future-oriented, they will have a greater need of security (money, hire-ability, need to work towards something tangible that shows them and others there self-worth)

    -boys live in the present where live is about self-gratification. We don't want to grow up and take on responsibilites because that sounds a like self-sacrifice.
    -As a mildly successful young man I see being a successful women is a negative attribute, because it blurs the lines of whats expected in the relationship. Nurses or lower is my personal turning point.

  • Trite

    Horrible article.

    It doesn't even mention what are probably the two main reasons why men are struggling in education:

    1) There are high paying jobs in fields that don't require education that are predominantly occupied by men, which is a disincentive to staying in school.

    2) The over abundance of female educators especially at the elementary level. This isn't an issue of needing strong male role models (which is an issue) but rather the methods used by respective genders in teaching. Teacher's present and structure information in manners that are logical and intuitive to themselves – a female teacher will present information in a way that is more consistent with how females learn.

    Since males are primarily being taught by females, especially during their formative years, they are at an inherent disadvantage to their female counterparts.

    As a male student, the teachers who have had an impact on my personal and educational life have all been males. That is not to say that males are better teachers than females but rather that the style of teaching of one gender is more consistent with the method of learning of that respective gender.

    Creating male and female schools or separating genders isn't going to address this issue. Instead, there has to be a greater push to get men to become educators, especially at the elementary level.

    This article amounts to nothing more then a circle jerk of female superiority under the guise of exploring modern social dynamics, complete with an ad nauseum of male stereotypes fittingly brought on by anonymous females.

  • Francis Camden

    Once again Macleans offers us reasons to fear the social empancipation of sectors of the population whom the white male elite would prefer to see staying 'in their place'. The changing demographics of campuses become a platform for spreading paranoia and the desire to defend imagined national values. With any luck, Macleans' days as a beneficiary of widespread respect are numbered, if not passed already. You have turned journalism into propanda of the most grotesque and yet sophisticated kind, and I find it repulsive and ethically reprehensible.

  • david

    As a male professional I have encountered sexist hiring policies advocated by "older" management men, whom are only more interested in having a female to work for them because they prefer their company or "presence". Has anyone put any thought into the fact that most of the powerful positions in todays work force are occupied by golden years gentlemen who plan to live out their years, rulling their positions as they see fit, which I would argue leaves little room for young male professional development and/or success

  • Jonny

    With such a naive perspective on excellence and success, it's no wonder males are unmotivated.

    Justin Frankel, teenager, cuts class to work on a computer program, AOL hires and buys him out for $100M. He later quits not because he wasn't making enough, probably not even because he wasn't challenged, but because he said everyone there was clueless.

    James Cameron, an avid sea-diver, films the Titanic because he wanted an excuse to dive to the wreck itself for himself.
    He also sits on the NASA advisory board, is a member of Dr. Zubrin's Mars Society, and has even drawn-up his own plans for building a colony on Mars.

    Those examples don't fit the model of excellence implied by this article.

    Lisa says,
    “Some of them may get out of it by the time they’re 25,” she says. “Fingers crossed. Because if not, it’s slim pickings.”

    There's that ugly sense of entitlement again. As long as we continue to believe that human beings are objects on display at a buffet, marriage will continue to decline, men will continue to "disappear," and any reason to live will at all continue to corrode.

    Lisa is setting herself-up for a lifetime of bitterness.

  • anon

    I agree with what you are saying in principle, but my oldest son had 3 male teachers through elemetary (K, 4 and 6). This is much higher than normal from what I gather. But my son is still doing so badly now in grade 7 (with 2 more male teachers) that we are talking about holding him back a year. I would desperately love to have answers to this problem for my own boys, so I read everything I see on this topic – but nothing really seems to apply. Unless the discipline issue that you also raise is more to the point. (My son has neither behavioural problems or an IQ issue – which makes knowing how to deal with the problem VERY challenging. In my experience it is simply that he just slips through the cracks.) He is often just quietly failing at the end of a term and nothing has even been said.
    I sometimes wonder if the problem is, not so much related to individual classrooms or teachers or even school boards, but systemic. Are the current "methods" for teaching – just bad? Are those who educate the educators teaching methods that are theory based and do not work (for boys especially)? Are teacher's unions promoting and endorsing an environment that focuses on the teacher and not the student?

    • healthcare insider

      This is just a thought. Have you had your son tested for learning disabilities? Sometimes children with normal IQ's and no behavior issues have problems reading questions or staying focused. The quiet kids get over-looked. My nephew has dyslexia. He was not formally diagnosed until grade 9. My daughter had ADHD but not the hyperactive component so she was overlooked. If you aren't in the teacher's face and disrupting the class but rather daydreaming in corner, they don't notice. If you look up ADHD & the DSM IV, it will provide you symptoms of those people with difficulty attending and focusing. See if your son has the symptoms. It can't hurt to request an assessment with a psychiatrist.

  • What was left

    Lots are signing up to be forensic scientist, like a lot of what is seen in Prime Time TV. Few sign up to be preachers! A consideration of the decline males in Church leadership would also be an interesting case study.

    When are virtues and masculinity held up together? When is there the wisdom of a male deliberately and patiently cultivating a healthy community? Not the way that Canadians are doing life anymore… Kids still have Fathers, but communities dont.

    In this information age where anything can be googled, when will we learn that education is now more about social / moral / community development? Yet our culture does not do this deliberately. We don't lead it. We lead with CSI Miami and making Big-Coin. God help us?

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