Russell Williams's neighbours

They fished and played cards together. In time, they would become his first victims.

by Michael Friscolanti on Friday, October 29, 2010 11:00am - 0 Comments
Where it all began

PHOTOGRAPH BY MELISSA TAIT/ JEROME LESSARD/QMI AGENCY

As Russell Williams was settling in for the first night at his new home—a tiny, solitary cell in the depths of Kingston Penitentiary—his old home on Cosy Cove Lane was dark and empty, as it has been for months. Next door, a family still searching for answers finished their Thursday dinner. “We played cards at this table with him,” says Ron, sitting beside his wife, Monique. “We drank beer at this table with him. And if somebody asked me today: ‘Did I ever see anything?’ The answer would be ‘No, absolutely nothing.’ ”

Like so many others who once considered the ex-colonel a close friend, Ron and Monique still can’t fathom the two faces of their former neighbour: the Russ who was always welcome in their Tweed, Ont., kitchen—and who enjoyed a special bond with their two children—and the Russ who kicked off his vile crime spree inside this very same house. “When we look back, we feel so stupid,” Ron says, shaking his head. “You shouldn’t, but you do. You can’t help it.”

The former commander of Canada’s largest air force base pleaded guilty last week to 88 charges (dozens of break-ins targeting women’s lingerie, two home-invasion sexual assaults, and two first-degree murders), but his chilling transformation from respected officer to serial predator began right here, just a few steps from his infamous lakefront cottage. It was Sept. 9, 2007, and while the family next door was visiting a dying relative eight hours away, Williams strolled through their open front door and headed straight for the bedroom of Ron and Monique’s 12-year-old daughter.

Williams knew the girl well. She had taught him to play cribbage, poking fun at his early mistakes. She baked cupcakes for him and his wife, Mary-Elizabeth Harriman, and delivered them to their door. In Grade 7, she even chose Williams as the topic for a school project. “I had to ask him 15 questions, and one of them was: ‘If you could do anything else with your life, what would it be?’ ” recalls the girl, now a teenager, sitting at the table with her parents. “He said, ‘I don’t think I would want to do anything else.’ ”

“He lied,” her father says.

Williams spent nearly three hours inside the girl’s room, modelling multiple pairs of her underwear and photographing himself in the mirror. He also pocketed six items, the first pieces of what would become a massive collection of stolen bras, panties, bathing suits and other female clothing. Williams would return to her bedroom on two other occasions while the family was away; neither she nor her parents had any idea that someone had rifled through her dresser.

“He knew we were gone, and he took advantage of that,” Monique says. (To protect the identity of Williams’s underage victim, Maclean’s is not publishing her name or her parents’ surname). “We feel like we lost a friend, but I can’t forgive him,” Monique adds. “That was my baby he targeted.”

The scope of Williams’s depraved double life is now public knowledge, revealed in gruesome detail at his recent sentencing hearing. Among the many tragic details, Ron and Monique now know that his second murder victim, Jessica Lloyd, was alive in the cottage beside theirs for 15 hours, then strangled and left in the garage for another four days. “It broke my heart,” Ron says.

But despite finally knowing the full truth, Williams’s neighbours are still struggling, like so many others, to answer the one question that remains a mystery: why? What triggered their friend, on that September night three years ago, to sneak into their home and begin a downward spiral that would end, two homicides later, in a police interrogation room?

Looking back, the neighbours can’t help but remember some of the stress Williams was under in 2007, right before the break-ins started. Curio, his beloved cat of 18 years, was sick and had to be euthanized. Williams and Harriman were so upset that they asked the vet to administer the needle inside their Ottawa home so she could die in a familiar setting. “He had tears in his eyes telling us about the death of that cat,” Ron recalls.
Williams was also suffering from a sudden bout of chronic arthritis. He was popping prescription pills, but the constant pain was so fierce at times that he worried he might have to retire from the military. “We would play cards here, and he could not sit for more than half an hour,” Ron says. “He would get up and stand behind the chair, holding the chair.” (Williams did the same thing during his videotaped confession to police, leaning against a wall for long periods of time.)

But as they have done since the day Williams was arrested, the family next door is not jumping to conclusions. They aren’t the type to gossip, and although they’ve often wondered about Curio’s death and the pain medication, they have no idea what actually turned their friend into a sadistic killer. “We went through a really tough time with this for the simple reason that we don’t know the guy they’re talking about [in court],” Ron says. “That’s not the guy we knew.”

The guy they knew was funny and modest and in love with his wife. He was the guy who fished in their ice hut and talked music with their son and never bragged about his high-profile job, even though it included ferrying prime ministers and the Queen. In fact, Williams didn’t even tell his neighbours he was working as Her Majesty’s official pilot during her 2005 visit until after she left.

The guy they knew wore a Gilligan-style hat while meticulously weeding his beach. The guy they knew would belt out a loud “Oh baby!” as he laid down a winning cribbage hand—and then joke about how he wanted to glue the pegs in place and hang the winning board over his mantel. The guy they knew appeared genuinely horrified when he heard that two women in the neighbourhood had been sexually assaulted in their homes. “He said: ‘Mary-Elizabeth is very afraid and very upset about this,’ ” Monique recalls.

At the time, of course, she had no clue she was speaking to the culprit—or that his sick crimes would soon escalate to murder.

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  • Looking back

    Williams achievements in military he did it with hard work, devotion and perseverance… his crimes were things he was not able to resist and defeat. His being a sicko, psycho whatever you call is a result from a bad part of his childhood that nobody exactly knows (whatever happened in South Korea that he calls it unhappy), from twice divorce of his mom, from the rigid training of his mom that they boys must be always doing the right thing, not given time to be kids and make mistake and learn from it. Am a mom myself and not perfect. Sad to say to be a parent is not learn from books and in school but from day to day hands-on life.

  • Looking back

    Every kid is unique and different even if they all came out from one womb so every kid just need unique and different approach as well. With my 2 daughters (who says its easy to raise girls than boys, both are but just same, has their own share of dealings) and raising them single-handedly, i was like flying a kite… need some pulling and letting go and pulling again until the soaring was smooth. Looking back at some aspects of child raising i can say i could had raised them differently but then again, for those moment what i did was the best for that moment in my best capability those times.
    Thank You!

  • angela e. angus

    I think it's disgusting that she would even think about getting money for her floor from us the tax payers back when in fact her husband created the whole situation and it made our police force enter the house for evidence in the first place. Had he confessed right away, I'm sure the "floor" would have been intact !!!…Needless to say this is an issue that also puzzles the human mind. It was very mindless of her to even mention the floor, that's the least of her problems.

  • Gamanin

    First thing that occurred to me when I read about Williams: could this man have a BRAIN TUMOR? I haven’t heard that any examination has been done. He is not typical of a born psycho, likes animals etc.. Because this compulsion came on him late in life, I wonder if there is a physical cause.

    He is, however, absolutely typical of Dennis Rayder, a pillar of his community, friendly etc.

    • TwltFlr

      That's something I keep wondering about. What would suddenly compel him to start doing this crap? It just seems so out of the blue. Based on the whole escalation of force (or whatever they call that… having a brain-fart, sorry) idea, to go from taking pics of undies to murder in three years, what came before it? And why so late in life? I just can't seem to wrap my head around that. Makes you wonder if there was something about him that changed. Maybe it was the Rx meds, or who knows if there is a tumor or something. In my mind, there must be something.

      • Camanae

        Could he have been taking ED medication? Viagra, Cilias or something similar? It's not too far-fetched to think he could have been on it. It would certainly not be the kind of advertising the pharmaceutical companies would not like to made known. They have their ways of keeping things like that hushed up. If he was taking an ED med, the public should at least be made aware of it.

      • The Main Point

        How about perversion? In a society addicted to getting what they want, and a media/entertainment complex that streams sex at us 24/7, hinting that what ever you want is good, easy and the recipient will always enjoy it, combined with a police force who took his early crimes about as seriously as they take teenagers egging houses on Halloween night, is it any wonder this stuff is happening?

        Few guys can just watch – think of the sleep watcher in Halifax -who is now touching. I think it is the opposite to your assumption, most perversions will escalate, because just watching something is boring, people want to actually be a part of something. What prevents it from escalating for others is the rejection from the recipient, most people seek acceptance when they want something sexual, having someone reject them kills the fantasy. For the completely self-absorbed, however, they don't care, they just take what they want. He didn't even try to justify his actions to Laurie in her account of the rape ("you want this" sort of talk that rapists will say to justify themselves), he just told her she better do this or that or he would make her.

        The police and public need to understand perversions like underwear snatching, peeping toms,grabbing or grouping women, breaking into their houses to watch them, spying on them etc. is not harmless. It is a person trying to get his own fantasies met at someone else's expense (right to privacy), and will probably escalate once the guy feels he needs more then they are 'giving' him.

  • M.H. Perth, ON

    Thanks to Monique and Ron. It must be so difficult and greatg sadness in learning about their friends.

    I was shock to learn about Williams' wife claiming damages for her floors. If her husband was incident, then she would have definitely been entitled to $3000.00. However, once they search her/their home, he had confessed and they were there to remove valuable items for what Williams did.She should still be suffering from "shock" and too distraught to even care about her floors. Even if a lawyer is advising her, she should be under such mental stress that the last thing she would want to deal with is flooring. Their are two wonderful people dead along with being married to a sociopath. This would leave anyone in such a state of sorrow that the last thing a wife would want to do is react to police business.When a spouse finds out about "their spouse cheating", the only reaction is against the cheating spouse and "no" not ready to comprehend and be compastionate. Her actions speaks volumes of "lack of character". She lives in a "me" bubble.

  • DianaF

    The neighbors were fooled, but I can't see how his wife of almost 20 years didn't detect something strange about his behavior. I'd be concerned and somewhat suspicious if my husband started going for 'long walks before retiring to bed'. What time did he come home after those walks? When did he start taking those walks? How did he behave when he came home? I can't find the comment now but someone mentioned that he might have been on viagra or another kind of erectile dysfunction medication. Was he and if so, when were they prescribed? She was married to him for 17 years when the break-ins began in 2007. There had to have been telltale signs in his manner and habits….something must have changed in that period of time to turn him into the monster he became.

    There are so many questions that we may never know the answer to.

    • The Main Point

      I think he was out 'jogging' but they didn't live together much.

  • Rae

    I'm still hoping to hear more of whether Harriman's relationship is continuing with her raping and murdering husband while he's at Kingston pen. There's still a story here……

  • first_7_years

    A child's first 7 years is the most important foundation of his life. There is a point in our life regardless what status we achieved that we do things (be it good or bad) and ask ourselves why and how the heck we want this and that. It can be material things, emotions, affections or desires. That is because in our subconscious mind there is that urge wanting to get released, wanting to get even or just the result of what happened within that first 7 delicate years of our life. Observe yourselves… and to those who have kids, try to evaluate how goes your parenthood and check on your kids now. The actions, wants, desires, mannerisms, ambition, focus, hobbies and inhibitions of your kids now is the result of what we instill in them and what environment they grow on their first 7 years of their life … traumatic and happy experiences included.

  • first_7_years

    If true that the wife is visiting him in jail and i hope the visit is not because of how the other conjugal assets be turned over to the wife as sole owner…if the visit is because she is the wife and comforting the husband i will not despise her … i will admire her as a good, forgiving wife on that matter. Isn't marriage for better and for worst? In sickness and in health?

    At first i was more mad at her than at him … merely because they don't have any kids and they both were busy accumulating money, wealth, houses and status (even at the height of his downfall, she was still thinking of her exemplary status in life and the floor and the house itself).

    Living apart for long and not being together on special occassions while neighbours and other families are together or out together visiting relatives… and Williams all alone. Anything will enter to one's idle mind.

    • Rae

      Sorry, but I find your logic pretty twisted. The wife is NOT to blame because they lived apart. However, the wife is morally reprehensible if she remains married to a murdering and raping man. She has a moral obligation to side with society on such heinous crimes. ANY woman has such a moral obligation.

      Again, I would like to know what their current relationship status is. I certainly don't intend to donate to the Heart and Stroke unless I know these facts.

  • first_7_years

    When he was interrogated by the detective.. he could had lied, prolong the case, give excuses like he is not the only one with such tire thread and pathfinder and not the only one with those pair of boots in Canada. He had keep his hard drives safely and he could have not tell the detective. He could have use his status as the commander thinking he has an exemplary reputation… but he told the truth… he gave in… he is a disgrace colonel but he still did a graceful exit being a killer, a psycho.

    Once caught he did not made it hard for the detective and policemen and the law and to himself. His confession and cooperation with the detective shows the good, educated Russell Williams and not the depraved colonel.

    • Rae

      No, his concern was for such petty things as damaging his house. He knew the jig was up. The man is intelligent – just immoral.

  • first_7_years

    Replying to Rae:

    Condemn the sin but not the sinner! though it doesn't mean that he won't be given due punishment of the law. Am not totally blaming the wife. But why do you want her to abandon him now that he needed her most. Its all her that he have for now. And who knows its also her ways now if true that she is comforting him, visiting in prison to payback whatever guilt feeling of negligence she has … that gave him the chance, ample time to be alone and did those crimes. As parents, spouses, even as children we have that moral and social obligation to check one another every now and then as part of the family, before everything else is too late. Family is the first unit of the society.

  • first_7_years

    con't reply for Rae
    #2
    The wife was siding always with the society being the associate director of that Heart and Stroke Foundation. She was taken away from him for long period of time by the society (basing on reports, but who knows she was having fun with friends and other groups while her husband was having fun sneaking in and out of girls bedrooms) that's why they were living apart most of the time. Again a reminder, charity begins at home before anywhere else. And charity does not always mean money.

  • first_7_years

    con't reply for Rae:
    #3
    He gave himself in peacefully … he laid out his bad cards on the table … his status in life being the commander of air force and a killer at that has equal impact on how he confessed and surrendered those ridiculous, shameful evidences which he could have just surrendered, plead guilty but keep mum and won't lead policemen to those evidences. But he allowed all those to happen even how painful and shameful it would be to him and to his wife … as much as he escalated too fast, he allowed as well everything to be known what happened to the whole world… so it be one fierce blow and hoping to subside too soon as well. … what he was, how he did it and how he confessed, surrendered and cooperated with the law … makes him one of a kind … i still has some respect and compassion to him all because of his last "graceful" exit.

    • Rae

      You know, in Holland right after the war, they shaved the heads of girls who hung out with German soldiers when Germany occupied Holland. It's the same story here for any woman who chooses to remain with man when he's commmited such atrocities.

      The only reason Williams confessed is because he knew his house would be torn apart looking for evidence. Again, Williams is smart – only immoral. Don't be too fast to pat him on the back for confessing. It was all self serving.

      • first_7_years

        Politics (includes war) and religion are two aspects on earth that blind the heart and soul of people.

        Yes, the man is smart no doubt … Finding himself in stalemate … he came to a point that he need to pawn himself. He knows when to stop. He gave the very detailed minutes of his crimes, ever willing to accept any punishment given to him in exchange of sparing his wife and one house … thanks that he still has that one weakness in life … just imagine if there was none, for sure he still is battling in court, gets the best lawyer in Canada, uses all laws he knows to his favor (maybe claim insanity or any illness) or keep on denying he was there and that was him.

        Tell me of any criminal who at first invitation of interrogation succumbed right there and then. He lives a luxurious life full of freedom, he is from the military, a commander at that and he knows what life could be in jail and that he could get life sentence but yet he yielded peacefully. It might be self serving as you call it but all in expense of his life, "exemplary reputation" and freedom. If only one had known that weakness before Marie-France and Jessica got murdered.

  • first_7_years

    Being the commander of air force he of course has that idea that nobody will think its me so in his mind … catch me if you can and in his inner mind … he do want to stop … with those painful chronic athritis he got? and the way he surrendered peacefully … the action was just some urge that he could not resist and defeat especially that there was no wife, no mom, no brother, no dad and he got no kids … he was always all alone.

  • ann

    I agree with all the people here who are questioning what went on in russell william's brain. No matter how atrocious the crimes, we have to look at the person and attempt to understand what the sickness is, because there clearly is some type of sickness at work here. He is guilty and needs to stay behind bars, of that there is no doubt, but he should spend the rest of his life helping to answer those questions for the sake of all of us.

    I also agree with those who are not judging his wife, so she asked for damages on the floor, shock does strange things to people. Look at the denial most people have of violent crime. We stick are heads in the sand and go shopping after reading yet another account of a violent death or sadistic sexual assault. Shock pain and denial is rampant. We deny it's effect and how much it numbs us, day after day after day. We even glorify it in media and entertainment.

    • ann

      What hurts me is that we spend millions on catching and trying violent sexual predators (700 million – for robert pickton), and absolutely nothing on stalking them BEFORE they assault, mutilate and kill innocent young women and children. Why is not this sick hatred of women and children the focus of intense study and preventative measures? We have a global 'war on terror', yet for the war on women and children, we simply sit aside and wait for the next set of gruesome details and squawk about how awful it is.

      • Female Guest

        How Orwellian of you. So yes, let's "stalk" innocent people *before* they commit any crimes. Sexual deviants ALWAYS learn this in childhood or early youth. So let's not do ANY investigation into HOW or WHY they became criminals in the first place. And let's COMPLETELY overlook the violence they've experienced themselves &/or influences that taught them this behaviour. And while we're at it, let's COMPLETELY overlook the extreme violence committed by women against those self-same "children" you conveniently lump in with "women" when absolutely NONE of the DV funding for "women and children" EVER trickles down to a single child.

        So yes, let's just "stalk" and vilify young boys (while we whitewash and enable violent and predatory females). Oh wait – we already do.
        http://www.female-offenders.com/resources.html

  • the_way_he_was

    We can say thanks and at the same time no thanks to his hobby of photography? If not of that, it would be only him who knows what happened … because of that at least the victims, their families and us, the sympathizers had the knowledge what had transpired. Even the not knowing victims learned that they were having uninvited guest in their sanctuary.

    He called himself as a keen photographer … keen photographer for me means one that has an eye for beauty or one that knows how to get good angle or one that can make wonder with a not so good scene, and one that can manage to steal good shots in high speed actions. He is rather a porno photographer … just wondering why the need to sexually assualt his victims, his neighbors when there are a plenty willing to be paid porno women? Would it be not the same effect for him? He could put on disquise look so he won't be known as the commander, that could had give him same thrill putting on disguise and satisfying his hobby as a porn photographer.

  • discusted

    i think this is outragous what he did to all those victims. an di really wish i could hug all of the living ones and the families of those who was taken by this creep.

    he could have got help .. theres a good hospital in ottawa the royal ottawwa . he could have went in there in privacy and told them about what he was thinking about and that he knows it wrong . they would have helped him with this issue. he DIDNT NEED to act upon this there is so many professionals out there.. also not that i agree he should be waring little girls underware by no means .. but if he really thought it was something he was interested .. he made alot of money why not go to the store and purchase some instead of hurting these poor inocent children.

    if he would have got help 2 people would not be dead and many others hurt and scared for life by this man. i am so sorry to all of you that was hurt by him and i am just so glad that my sister didnt end up victim to his crime as she lived close by to him.

  • what the heck

    or he could just had ordered online … then again meaning his wife don't wear panties?

  • Mojo

    I am not surprise this dirt bag confess that quick because I am sure he did some crimes overseas and he didn’t want to be persecuted in third word country because he will not be in luxuries cell with TV and Radio like the one is having in Kingston prison. I think OPP, RCMP, Military Police and Interpol should go back and trace where this dirt bag traveled in Europe or mildest and open an investigation.
    The wife I don’t believe her a bit, my wife is half of me and she knows every think I do and I don’t give chance to adults to play with my kids at all. Kids play with Kids.
    Some people still call him colonel am believable, me I call him terrorist who terrorize this Women’s and terrorize the whole communities.

  • Jeff

    It's amazing how so many people here ASSUME that his wife has any part in this and point the finger at her because she made a claim for damaged floors that were damaged by the searching officers. She was a victim here and when the government went into her home and scratched her floors during their search, the fact that she has "a healthy income, two properties and no dependents" has nothing to do with her right to be compensated for the repair of floors that she did not damage. Then she get's judged for it by all of you… shame!

    However, I do not understand why his wife would still want to visit her husband when he is in fact a rapist and a murderer… perhaps because she knows he is ill and she has found some sympathy for him (even though he doesn't deserve it).

  • Celine

    I have just finished reading the previous comments. How easy it is to judge and how judgemental do we allow ourselves to be. It never ceases to amaze me. I guess that a lot more people are perfect than I thought there was. And I bow my head to you all who are so righteous and almighty, it must be wonderful living in your company and I suppose nobody has ever told you a lie that you believed since it is so unbelievable to you that Mrs. Harriman could have been innocently unaware of her husband's wrongdoings. The empathy train has left your station. Here is hoping you never need to rely on it for yourselves or those close to you that you believe are capable of no wrong.

  • Holly

    I would like to hear from the other neighbor,Jones.He seems a little off.First he didn't know him then he had williams to his parties,Then he knew allllll the detalis,then williams was framing him then he was sure williams used his coat to plant as evidence.Funny though I have never heard him say say I am so sorry for the victims.But every time I open an article there he is!Sometimes its hard to remember who the real victims are!!

  • A neighbour

    I personally know this man.. and am also a neighbour to him and Williams. All of us who live on Cosy Cove are victims. Larry Jones is the nicest and kindest man there is. Him and his wife would do anything for anyone… They didnt deserve what happened to them. There is alot more details about Russel Williams that only neighbours know.. its very easy to sit there and judge when you just dont know isnt it? How bout watching 5-20 cars drive by your house to see Russ Williams on any given day.. Even though No Tresspassing signs have been posted… Walk a mile in someone elses shoes before you jump on here and judge others.

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